Kissing Relatives on the Mouth

Victoria Beckham made news recently about a photo where she was kissing her daughter straight on her lips. The internet world is a'flutter with this. Personally I don't see a problem if said child is young. Over a certain age, I do have a problem with it. That age would be determined between parent and child. Some children don't like it earlier than other children. But by the time they are a teen, I think it is wrong.

My father who is almost 83 still tries to kiss me straight on the lips. I think that is just gross. This is the mentally and physically abusive alcoholic father who is doing this. The father who has never said "I love you" to me and instead calls me "slut" "bitch" "you are just like your mother" etc yet for some unknown icky reason he wants to kiss me on the lips. NO THANK YOU.

I am actually a touchy feely type of person but NO ONE except my husband and now my granddaughter are allowed to have their lips touch mine. No one. No brother, sister, brother-in-law, mother-in-law, friend, etc. My lips are mine. I dictate who touches them.

To me it is a personal thing. I do not have sex thoughts when I kissed my children or I kiss my granddaughter. Kisses to them were just that - kisses. I agree with Mrs. Beckham - stop the mommy-shaming!

Begging in Today's World aka Go Fund Me

I am sure if you are on any social media, you will have heard of what a Go Fund Me account is. It is the new buzz word that to me is pure begging but in today's world.

I will state that some of those accounts are legitimate BUT yeah........HUGE BUT......a whole lot of them are not.

My husband and I lost our jobs in May of 2015. Do you see me with an account? Did you know there are people on there who have accounts that want you to pay for their plastic surgery or send them on a vacation?

My problem with it became highlighted with a friend whose son was just diagnosed with medulloblastoma - a nasty usually fatal brain tumor. She asked for funds to help send them to St Jude's while he had treatment and to pay for the costs of staying there and feeding the family. I found out today that they never went - they changed their minds when their insurance stated it wouldn't pay for them to go there (they had Medicaid) and instead are staying at home and the boy is going to continue to receive treatment at a children's center in their area. So my thoughts were maybe they closed their Go Fund Me Account.......well no they didn't. They didn't even put a notice on there that plans had changed. They keep the account updated but with information that is happening in the state they live in instead of where people think they are. Do they need the money? No. Medicaid is covering 100%. Do I feel bad for the child and what they are going through? Huge yes but not enough to donate money to them. I withdrew my donation. Thankfully I had gone in under anon.

My niece on the other hand.......yes she has an account that was started by her husband's brother for their daughter who frankly, should never have been born. I am Catholic. I believe life begins at conception. BUT there is also viability. My great niece was born at 23 weeks and just registered a little over a pound. But since the mother was an NICU nurse they elected to do anything possible to keep this baby alive. The chances that the baby will live? 10%. The chances this child if it does live, will have long term health problems? 98%. The baby was delivered with no breath sounds. The nurses and doctors put the child on a ventilator where she still is on. She has just now a month later, gained to her original birth weight. Oh - big news - she opened her eyes. Ummmm she has no retinas - no vision. She may or may not develop those but chances are she won't since she hasn't been off oxygen since birth. She has a heart defect. She was supposed to have surgery today. The mother's sister lives not 15 minutes away from the hospital she was transferred to have the surgery. And just because an uncle felt sorry for what the family is going through, he started a Go Fund Me Account for them to help defray their expenses (medical and housing). Okay....medical: micro-preemies immediately are put onto state social security benefits so this 1 pound baby is able to get benefits before an adult. Oh what a messed up system that is. No housing is needed - they are staying at her sister's house. So why do they need money? Do you know that in the week since this account was opened, they have raised over 100 grand?

I am sitting here shaking my head wondering why the world is so messed up that it chooses to save this baby and pour money to her and her family when I am sitting here without a job, no health insurance, barely money for food................please don't tell me to feel bad because of the baby. I know they made that choice because I had to make that choice with my husband when I was spontaneously going into labor with my 4th child. He was 23 weeks too. We chose to let him decide and to see what happens after he was born. He was born breathing but having a hard time. With all the risks and problems facing him and you could tell he was in pain, my husband and I chose to let God take him. We got to hold him for an hour before he passed into God's hands.

But no way in any way shape or form would I start a Go Fund Me account. What happened to taking responsibility for your decisions? I don't know what this world is coming to.