Thursday, December 24, 2015

Happy Christmas Eve - Dedicated to Memory of My Mom


Mom, the above says it all. I miss you so much. If you were here and saw what was going on in the family, I know you would be so highly pissed. Pissed that the family you so carefully put together is torn apart by your earthly husband and children and grandchildren. You were always preaching fairness to all but your message somehow didn't reach everyone.

This is the last year your oldest and youngest will participate in family activities. Yes, that is how bad it has gotten. In the 5 years you have been gone, it has gone from bad to worse. There is not anything resembling a family left.

I miss you.

Tuesday, December 8, 2015

Family Problems


I haven't had time to update this blog. Granddaughter had bacterial pneumonia so I was helping take care of her then I came down with a pretty nasty cold and cough which I still have (don't have strep again though).

Thanksgiving? Well it was interesting and I can honestly say I will never do it again the way we did it this year. Technically I think it would have worked out if son-in-law's family didn't act like my daughter's side of the family weren't there. According to the 30 of them, the 5 of us were not invited and were not family. It was held at daughter's house. She sent evites asking people to bring a dish. Did people bring the dish they said they would? I did. My brother-in-law did. Did son-in-law's family? Nope. We ended up with 3 lousy box stuffing mixes, vegetables that just because they are wrapped in bacon doesn't mean anyone wanted to eat it, my mashed potatoes (10 pounds went like hotcakes) and about 100 desserts. I made a pumpkin pie and pecan pie. BIL made a deep dish apple pie. His family? Store bought cupcakes, cookies, candy, oh and birthday cakes for their family who were having birthdays.

So basically I could eat the turkey and mashed potatoes. I wanted to join my granddaughter in eating a bowl of Rice Krispies - the new Christmas version. I also made whipped cream from scratch. They wanted cool whip.

There wasn't any intermingling. Conversations would stop if I entered a room (I was put in charge of granddaughter who goes where she wants and she didn't want to go anywhere near them). To be honest, she didn't know them. She knew her gramma and her 2 cousins but no one else. They hadn't seen her since last Christmas. You can't make a 2 year old do anything if she doesn't want to.

So who got the whole meal ready? Daughter and I. Who did dishes? Daughter and I. Who cleaned up? Daughter and I.

Yep not doing that again.

Wednesday, December 2, 2015

More Crazy Words for Words With Friends


Oh yeah, they are at it again. It's funny that every time I post about people who cheat when playing the game Words With Friends, they don't cheat for 2-3 games.

But those 2-3 games gear them up for some good ones. The latest:

jinn - really? is this a slim gym? or some nasty gin?

drest - this one reminds me of that baby washing detergent - dreft

cidon - no clue on this one but sounds like something out of Star Wars

dhobi - Indian origins perhaps?

gaen - now this one reminds me of Ireland

outvies - reminds me of an outhouse

guiro - a new word for a coin?

ducat - instead of the cat or da cat it is du cat

spait - reminds me of those ugly shoe covers we had to wear on our shoes in band in the 1960's

zax - a really high counting word if placed properly and yep they placed it to get 100 points! I will remember this one!

casefies - are these like flies that come in cases?

Monday, November 30, 2015

Combining Families for Holidays


Ironically this sign is seen at a lot of weddings now. But in reality, does it really happen? I say no.

From the first time my daughter got engaged, her mother-in-law-to-be took over my Mother's Day plans with my family to a surprise engagement party for our children. She called me to tell me AFTER she had already announced and sent out invitations to her side. All of her side brought presents for the kids. My side did not. We were labeled as 'poor'. Since this mother invited more than my side had there, I took the bill and handed it to son-in-law to be's parents to pay (I figured out the bill plus tax and tip and divided it to get a per person amount then multiplied it by the number of people they had). Yep they paid. I don't think they were happy but yanno, I didn't really care.

Then came the wedding. I gave daughter a budget. The list for invites came to over 1000. So we started trimming. I refused to pay for more than 250 people. We decided to only invite people who actually knew either my daughter or my son-in-law, plus no one could bring a date unless they were engaged, and there would be no children unless they were family. The kids told their friends to buddy up and they wouldn't be allowed to bring a date unless they were engaged. Mother of SIL protested since she wanted her bible friends and neighbors (they didn't know SIL since they had moved in long after SIL moved out) so I gave her the cost to upgrade the room and what the price per person was and if she wanted to invite these people she would have to pay for it. She elected not to.

SIL's mother was pissed I put her son's flowers on him. But yanno? We couldn't start the wedding until she got there. Yep she was over 10 minutes late.

In my eyes, it has been a competition since between her family and mine. She insists on every holiday at the time she decides to get it ready. She decides she wants lunch so the kids told her lunch would be at 11:30am then so they had time to drive the hour west for our dinner at 5pm. She wouldn't even serve until 3pm which was the time she wanted to begin with. So I took lunch. It would end up I would get the kids for 2-3 hours and she would get them for 6 hours. But my time would be shared with my husband's family. I never got alone time. Christmas was easier. We do Christmas eve with husband's family. Christmas usually the 26th for my family. But now there was no time for the kids and us alone. So I was relegated to an hour before we would head to a parent's house.

This year my daughter said she was having Thanksgiving dinner at their house and she was hosting. Both immediate families would be invited but since they had more kids, and husband only has a brother and his wife and his mother on our side, these would be invited. Well, son-in-law must have told his mother because the numbers grew from SIL's mother and father, sister with her fiancee, and 2 grandchildren (SIL's sister had to work) to now include cousins, relatives, neighbors, and people from MIL's bible group. Daughter didn't stand up for herself and allowed it.

It was miserable. Granddaughter had been sick so between taking care of husband's mother and running after granddaughter and helping daughter in the kitchen, I was run ragged as was daughter. People were to sign up for different things and state what they were bringing so daughter had an idea of what was coming. Well, people didn't bring what they said so we ended up with 3 different stuffings, my mashed potatoes, daughter's sweet potato casserole, rolls, and turkey my daughter and SIL provided. No vegetable. No salad. Husband's brother brought a homemade apple pie, I brought a homemade pumpkin pie and a homemade pecan pie along with real whipped cream. The others brought cookies bought from stores, cupcakes that would feed 4, and my SIL's mother? She brought a french silk pie and 2 birthday cakes for their side of the family. Ummm.....this was Thanksgiving not birthday party for your side of the family.

Guess who cleaned up? Yep daughter and I. Not one person (there were 30 of SIL's mother's people) of their side helped at all. They didn't even clean up their own plates.

Guess what I am taking back? Yep my own Thanksgiving. SIL's parents have decided they will not work with me so I refuse to work with them anymore. I don't care. I am not their maid.

Happy Thanksgiving


Sorry this was posted late. Granddaughter has had bacterial pneumonia so I have been helping daughter out with her care and assisting daughter with the preparations for Thanksgiving.

Granddaughter is better. Daughter is sick now. I was too but mine was more gluten sensitivity in a high gluten meal. I tried to keep it under control but guess the stuffing along with pie along with pasta didn't help. Thankfully son-in-law is taking care of little one - how come it seems they recuperate 100 times faster than the adults taking care of them?

Thursday, November 19, 2015

Recipe Thursday - Cooked Cranberry Salad/Sauce


This is my mother's cranberry sauce modified and adapted to my husband's family's heritage.

1 bag of cranberries, washed and discard any bad ones then dry them
1 cup sugar
1/2 cup of water
1 orange
1 jar of cinnamon sticks

Put the water and sugar into a pan, Add the cranberries. Zest the orange then squeeze as much juice as you can into the pan.

Bring the pan to a boil. Reduce heat and add the jar of cinnamon sticks. Simmer until the cranberries begin to burst and the liquid thickens (around 10 to 15 minutes).

Pour into a serving dish. Cool. Some people like to serve it warm (me) and others like it chilled in the frig for an hour or more.



Inspirational Sunday - Changing How You React to How People Treat You


This spoke to me especially with Thanksgiving rolling around and with people I don't particularly care anything about - my daughter's inlaws, inlaws neighbors, inlaws relatives, inlaws bible group. I don't know why my daughter thought I would want to attend something with her inlaws because she knows I can't stand them after his mother just takes over everything. Daughter says that her MIL is an airhead and she doesn't even realize she is doing this. My opinion differs. But it is my daughter's inlaws. Not mine.

Thanksgiving should be family and friends. The only people that will be there amongst the 50 people will be my family (husband, son, daughter, son-in-law, and granddaughter). The others? Not even friends.

But I will go because the alternative is going to my father's which is definitely not going to happen or go home alone.

I am choosing to stay and changing how I react to it and yes, without drugs. Pray for me!

Friday, November 13, 2015

Recipe Thursday - Raw Cranberry Salad










This is a recipe from my father's side of the family. I happen to like both cooked and raw cranberry salad. This week I will give you the raw salad and next week the cooked one.

For those of you who do not have an old fashioned hand grinder, you will have to make adjustments as needed. I have my good old fashioned one that I use for everything. I love the cranking and I love seeing the finished product. Other grinders just do not do this justice.

2 peeled oranges (I save the peels and freeze them to make orange zest)
2 peeled and cored apples (Use apples that are firm with a little tartness - no soft mushy ones)
1 celery piece from a stalk of celery
1 cup of walnuts or pecans
1 quart package of cranberries
2 boxes of cherry Jell-O
3 cups sugar
2 cups hot water

1. In large serving bowl add the water to the Jell-O and stir until dissolved. Set aside.

2. Chop oranges, apples, pecans, cranberries, and celery in a grinder (I grind the ingredients listed in no particular order but never all of one at once - I mix them up)

3. Add sugar to the chopped mixture and stir (I taste test adding a cup of sugar at a time until the desired tartness/sweetness is just right (remember the Jell-O will add some sweetness)

4. Add the chopped mixture to the Jell-O and stir.

5. Refrigerate.


I store this in the frig for up to a week. I will also use it in my post Thanksgiving sandwich.


Sunday, November 8, 2015

Inspirational Sunday - Losing Someone


I am a mother of a 35 year old daughter, a 32 year old son, and two angels in heaven. As a mother who has lost 2 children, I know the pain a mother goes through.

Today, a friend of mine lost her 22 year old son. He had been a troubled youth and had been fighting many battles over the years but had been choosing life for the past year. The family was finally healing and coming back together as a family. But last night, the girl this son had been dating told him she aborted their child because she didn't want any children. To the son, this betrayal threw him back deep into the depression and void he had just crawled out from. He took his life this morning.

Life is fragile. It is a delicate balancing act. This is a devastating blow to my friend who had finally thought there was going to be light at the end of her tunnel.

I have no words for her. There are never enough words to offer someone. I know. I have walked in her shoes.

Recipe Thursday - Parmesan Shell



I have made these for years. You can make tiny ones to hold appetizers in and I have made larger ones to hold a dinner salad in. I liken it to a taco shell - edible and since it uses cheese, one doesn't need bread rolls to go with their salad.

There are a few rules here - most important is always use freshly grated cheese. This is not the time to use canned shredded cheese or even shredded in a bag. This is an honest to gosh get out your grater and grind some cheese.

Ingredients:
- Parmesan Reggiano cheese (you can get it at Costco) I happen to like mine with a sharp bite. You will need 1/2 cup for each 6 inch bowl and less for an appetizer cup
- 2 nesting bowls (I use mini bowls I picked up at Bed Bath & Beyond for my appetizers and I use cereal type bowls for my salads. These bowls have to 'nest' tightly together with the rims close together. You will be sandwiching the cheese between them.
- parchment paper - use a good brand because an off brand will stick to the cheese and ruin the whole thing - take it from experience - been there done that! I use my Wilton brand parchment paper but have also used Reynolds brand too.
- large microwave safe platter or plate with a flat bottom like a large dinner place or a pie plate

1. Cut a piece of parchment paper to cover the bottom of the plate. You can reuse the parchment paper for multiple cheese bowls.

2. Put grated cheese in the center of the paper that is on the plate with the flat bottom. Please note that each wedge of cheese is different so how much it will take will be different each time you make it. You can usually determine how much cheese you will need once you make a bowl.

3. Spread the cheese into a circle shape. It does not have to be perfect and in fact I like my bowls to have uneven edges. Once I just kept a little bit of edge on one side and presented the salad as if it were overflowing off the small edge. Experiment.

4. Hold an inverted bowl over the cheese circle and make sure the cheese extends 3/4 to 1 inch beyond the rim of the bowl. (Example if you are using a 6 inch diameter bowl rim: the cheese circle is 7 and 1/2 inches.

5. Use scissors to trim the corners off of the parchment paper to keep them from bumping against the walls of the microwave as the turntable rotates.

6. Have an inverted bowl ready to use as a mold when you take the hot cheese out of the microwave.

7. Put the plate of cheese in the microwave and cook at full power until golden brown over most or all of the surface. It should take less than 2 minutes so keep an eye on it.

8. Remove the cooked cheese from the microwave and with parchment paper still attached, immediately flip it over the bowl mold, centering it over the bowl. If it isn't centered don't worry. This is one time you don't have to be perfect.

9. Working quickly before the cheese hardens, take the 2nd bowl and press it over the hot parchment paper with the cheese underneath. Press down to form the cheese into a bowl shape. I do advise you to not use your hands since the cheese is hot and you will burn your hands (again been there done that).

10. Remove the top bowl and peel off the parchment paper.

11. Remove the bowl mold and set it aside and you are now ready to make another one.


Note - you can store the bowls for up to 5 days at room temp in an airtight container or in a large Ziploc baggie which makes these perfect to make beforehand.

Note - again DO NOT WORRY if the edges are not perfect - this is one time imperfection doesn't matter. Also if you break a bowl or have one left over, all is not lost and don't throw it away. Just crumble it up into chunks and they are great to either snack on or for using on salads or in soups.

Thursday, November 5, 2015

Family Problems with Holidays

This year my daughter decided to have Thanksgiving at her house. Normally we go to my husband's mothers house for lunch and then dinner. When daughter got married in 2008, they decided to split Thanksgiving with one of us getting the lunch meal one year and the other getting the dinner meal.

Yeah, that never ever worked. Son-in-law's mother has no awareness of time. Her lunch was at 3p so the kids ate really quick then drove the hour west for a full dinner at 5p. But if we did the lunch, son-in-law's mother had dinner at 3p so the time with the kids became smaller and smaller until 2 years ago I cried uncle and gave up. Incidentally that was our 1st Thanksgiving with our granddaughter here and we didn't even get to see her. When you have parents that are 96 and 88, meal times are set which is why we had to call it quits. His parents are our age but they have no parents alive but they invited everyone and the neighbors and church friends. They could have dinner that came out of cans at 5pm easily. But no.

Should I also mention that son-in-law's mother babysits our granddaughter every day for 9-10 hours 5 days a week. We barely get to see her for 3 hours once a week. Yet when I try for equal rights seeing her, I am the bad guy.

So this year I am stuck going to my daughter's house when she is having all these other people there from son-in-law's family and friends and neighbors and his mother's church friends. They like processed foods. I can't eat processed foods. Naturally who is my granddaughter going to want to be near? Why either her parents or the grandmother who watches her daily for hours on end. And this grandmother? Has the whiniest voice I have ever heard. I asked if daughter's brother could bring a date and the answer was no. Yet church friends are allowed that the kids don't even know?

I am a grinch for Thanksgiving. I am hoping my allergies act up so I don't have to go. I have no idea what I will be able to eat. I eat organically with from scratch things. They eat boxed meals or frozen meals or canned meals.

I am cancelling going to daughters and having it myself with my own food I can eat.

Bah Turkey!

Sunday, November 1, 2015

Inspirational Sunday - 1 Year Anniversary


Today is the one year anniversary of my father-in-law who I considered more of a father in the 38 years I knew him than my own father.

Louis, you are missed and thought of often!

Saturday, October 31, 2015

Recipe Thursday - Perfect Mashed Potatoes


I figured I would start off with items I am making to take to daughter's house for Thanksgiving.

My family calls these the perfect mashed potatoes.

Ingredients:
2 pounds Yukon gold potatoes
1 pound Russet potatoes
2 teaspoons salt, divided
1/3 cup butter
1/3 cup half and half
4 ounces softened cream cheese
3/4 coarsely ground pepper

Directions:
1. Peel potatoes then cut them into 1 inch pieces and put into a large pot. Cover with cold water and add 1 teaspoon salt. Cover and bring to a boil over medium high heat. Reduce heat to medium low and cook for 16-20 minutes or until fork-tender. Drain.

2. Return the potatoes to the pot. Cook until all water evaporates and potatoes look dry. Push potatoes to one side of the pot then add the butter, half and half, cream cheese, pepper and remaining salt. Cook 1-2 minutes or until the butter is melted and the mixture boils.

3. Remove from heat and beat with a hand held mixer on medium speed for 30 seconds to 1 minute. Don't overbeat. Serve immediately.

Sunday, October 25, 2015

Inspirational Sunday - Everlasting Life


It is weeks like this that I am thankful for John 3:16. It reminds me that anyone that is no longer with us on this earth are with God and have everlasting life. They have reached their final destination. They are at peace.

John - I will miss your witty humor. I left a piece of candy for you on your journey and know that you will never hunger for a piece of candy again. I also left you a 'buck' since you always asked me for one. I hope you never have to use it. Be at peace. We will watch over Gert for you but I don't think Gert will be with us long. She was already seeing you. Stay with her if you can until she comes to you.

Brett - You were so young on this earth and just starting your life. You had finally met the girl of your dreams. All of your friends and loved ones are mourning you trying to find answers to why. But sometimes there is no reason - no answer to the why - it just is and one day we will meet again and learn the why. We know you are still amongst us.

Margaret - You were a beloved step-mother to a wonderful family of doctors. You will rejoin your husband and child. Go in peace. You were loved.

Recipe Thursday - Nutty Crusted Chicken


Sorry - this was posted a few days late. It is one of my granddaughter's favorite recipes - she nicknamed it nutty chicken :) She still loves her honey mustard to dunk the chicken in. I usually serve a stir-fry of vegetables with it.

Nutty Crusted Chicken

This recipe is best with almonds, but works well with any type of nut. I prefer kosher salt in this recipe so if you use table salt, reduce salt amounts by half.

Ingredients:
4 (6- to 8-ounce) boneless, skinless chicken breasts, tenderloins removed, trimmed
Kosher salt
1 cup almonds, chopped coarse
4 Tablespoons unsalted butter
1 shallot, minced
1 cup panko bread crumbs
2 teaspoons finely grated lemon zest, I then that the lemon I used for the zest and cut it into wedges
1 teaspoon minced fresh thyme
1/8 teaspoon cayenne pepper
1 cup all-purpose flour
3 large eggs
2 teaspoons Dijon mustard
1/4 teaspoon pepper

Adjust oven rack to lower-middle position and heat oven to 350 degrees. Set wire rack in rimmed baking sheet. Pat chicken dry with paper towels. Using fork, poke thickest half of breasts 5 to 6 times and sprinkle with 1/2 teaspoon salt. Transfer breasts to prepared wire rack and refrigerate, uncovered, while preparing coating.

Pulse almonds in food processor until they resemble coarse meal, about 20 pulses. Melt butter in 12-inch skillet over medium heat, swirling occasionally, until butter is browned and releases nutty aroma, 4 to 5 minutes. Add shallot and 1/2 teaspoon salt and cook, stirring constantly, until just beginning to brown, about 3 minutes. Reduce heat to medium-low, add bread crumbs and ground almonds and cook, stirring often, until golden brown, 10 to 12 minutes.

Transfer panko mixture to shallow dish or pie plate and stir in lemon zest, thyme, and cayenne. Place flour in second dish. Lightly beat eggs, mustard, and pepper together in third dish. Pat chicken dry with paper towels. Working with 1 breast at a time, dredge in flour, shaking off excess, then coat with egg mixture, allowing excess to drip off. Coat all sides of breast with panko mixture, pressing gently so that crumbs adhere. Return breaded breasts to wire rack.

Bake until chicken registers 160 degrees, 20 to 25 minutes. Let chicken rest for 5 minutes before serving with lemon wedges.

Monday, October 19, 2015

Dysfunctional Family


Someone posted this today on Facebook. I don't know about other families but this is not true in the family I grew up in or the one my husband grew up in. I don't know about my son and daughter - I would think they would be there for each other since my husband and I tried to raise them as separate entities but that of a family and a family supports each other.

This kinda makes me wonder if maybe the dysfunction in my husband's and my family is actually normal?

Maybe for a family to be normal is for them to be dysfunctional.

Pet Peeve - Words with Friends Part 2


This is an update on the unusual words used by a few friends who definitely cheat with me on this game. I posted Version 1 on 8-20-15 so you can check what I posted on that day and the words they used.

Again, this has been a large pet peeve of mine.

Here is the latest vocabulary:
LEBENS
TOLUID
PULE
HERN
KAIL
AZO
NIZAMS
KENDO
DOIT
GAZARS
NUTLETS
JOUK
JYBO
CONGEE
EDHS
OSE
MEWL

It just keeps getting worse. So karma is a bitch. I have been using their words in conversations with them. They will say "Huh?" I will say, well, I know you know that word since you used it last week in Words with Friends with me. Not one has come back and admitted they don't know the word but every single one? All of a sudden have a phone call or door bell or an emergency that they can't answer me.

And for a few days.........I get real honest words used in everyday conversation. Then they revert.

Oh yeah, I have a notebook and I am keeping track.

KARMA



Sunday, October 18, 2015

Inspirational Sunday - Cubs vs Luck vs God


My husband and I were talking last night about the chances the Cubs had to win last night's game. My husband said they won't win because of the name Murphy and went on to spout instance after instance where the Cubs lost against the Mets whenever someone named Murphy was playing for the Mets or even that a black cat walked across the field and it was named Murphy. Of course there is also some goat. But I was totally flabbergasted that he firmly believed that these instances were why the Cubs lost.

I obviously don't believe in luck. I believe in God. All the things my husband was talking about: superstitions. That is all. An answer to why they didn't win or why something happened or why someone has to wear a particular item of clothing or sit in the same seat or do anything for the same 'luck' to happen: pure coincidence. If it really worked, there would be scientific evidence that every time those things happened or didn't, it was more than superstition. But no - it is not used as an excuse that a better team played.

Friday, October 16, 2015

Recipe Thursday - Apples



I actually use apples in a lot of recipes but I have a lot of old recipes that usually call for apples that are no longer around. So I was always trying to figure out which one to buy or use for each recipe and in today's world, walking into the produce area where apples are, you are confronted with a zillion different brands.

I started compiling this cheat cheat so thought I would share it with you:

FUJI apples: I find them too juicy for baking but I love eating them. They add sweetness in salads or with cheese. I will use them in my applesauce with a couple of different apples.

GALA apples: I find these sweet, good smelling, and a good all around apple. They are great for sauces but can also be added to salads. I love gala apples when I bake them whole. I will also use them by slicing them thin and baking them to make a apple chip snack.

GOLDEN DELICIOUS apples: A lot of people told me to stay away from these apples because they have a dull taste and a icky texture but I never had that problem. I later learned that if a Golden Delicious was picked too early or stored too long they did that. A ripe freshly picked Golden Delicious apple has a rich almost custard taste. I use these as one of my apples in my applesauce and in pies.

GRANNY SMITH apples: These apples are tart with taut green skin. They bring a crunch to salads and are great in applesauce if you like apples that don't go all mushy. I also use them in pies with other apples. However, I do not like them in my stuffing (dressing).

HONEYCRISP apples: These are now the baking apples because they are more like a candy taste than a fruit taste. They can be pretty pricey.

McINTOSH apples: These are bright, fresh, and juicy. I love these in either savory baked dishes like stuffing or in a casserole or sweet dishes like pies and applesauce.

NORTHERN SPY apple: This is a new one. It is tart but honey tasting. It has a pale green skin flushed with red stripes. It is tart at first but then has that honey sweetness taste after. They do best in pies and cooked desserts although can be eaten fresh.


Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Cubs Win and Advance to NLCS!


To be perfectly honest, I am not a baseball fan. I think it is the most boring sport there is besides tennis or soccer. I love football, hockey, and Olympic sports like gymnastics, ice skating, ice dancing, snow skiing, snow boarding, luge, etc.

My mother though was a huge die-hard Cubs fan. The game would always be on. She would be a 'back seat coach' (this is like a back seat driver except she firmly believed no one would be able to coach better than she did). She knew everyone's statistics and what every player's strengths and weaknesses were. There was always a 'next year'.

I believe she has been watching this year's team with the same amount of passion she always did but probably sitting next to Ernie Banks and Ron Santo in heaven. I am sure she was watching today as her beloved Cubs won and will advance.

My mother passed away yelling at something the Cubs did on a Saturday afternoon in April of 2010. There isn't a day that goes by that doesn't remind me of my mom. Today was no different. Today was for you mom! The Cubs are heading to the NLCS. Keep cheering and coaching with Ernie and Ron because something is working!

I love you!

Monday, October 12, 2015

Inspirational Sunday - Coffee


***NOTE: I received this via email. There was no author. I found many references to it on the internet with a lot of different people using it. If you are the real owner, please let me know so I can give you credit.***

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her – her husband had cheated on her and she was devastated. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as soon as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.
Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, ‘Tell me what you see.’
‘Carrots, eggs, and coffee,’ she replied.
Her grandmother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The grandmother then asked the granddaughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.
Finally, the grandmother asked the granddaughter to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked, ‘What does it mean, grandmother?’
Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity? Do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain.. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?
How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
May we all be like the COFFEE.

Saturday, October 10, 2015

Rough Week


I was looking for a definition of a 'rough week' and I couldn't find exactly what I wanted. I think a rough week for one person could a horrific week for another that would make them take drugs or start drinking or just stick their head under the covers and hide.

My rough week wasn't like that. But I found it hard some days to find anything positive about the day except that I still believed in God and I knew God still believed in me.

Everyone has bad weeks, days, hours, and minutes. It can be anything from breaking something, breaking up with someone, to just feeling like you are breaking in two from the stress.

This week brought a whole lot of sorrow to our family with the loss of a very close friend of our sons who was also a large part of our family.

Every day I try to be positive and think positive so I can live life positive in the Glory of God. I always ask WWJD and try to follow my heart. I know there is some reason I have had to go through this week but until I can see the reason, I will continue on. Maybe a little bit slower but I will continue on.




Recipe Thursday - Seafood Gumbo



Seafood Gumbo


8 ounces kielbasa or Cajun sausage, cut into 1-inch slices
1/3 cup olive oil
1 pound okra (we use frozen)
2 cups diced onions
1 cup coarsely chopped red bell pepper
1 cup coarsely chopped green bell pepper
4 cloves garlic, minced
5 cups chicken stock or canned broth
3 cups drained canned plum tomatoes, slightly crushed
1 tsp ground cumin
1/2 tsp cayenne pepper
1/2 tsp salt
1/2 tsp freshly ground black pepper
1 bay leaf
1 pound large shrimp, peeled and deveined
12 ounces sea scallops
12 ounces cooked lobster meat
8 ounces lump crabmeat, cartilage removed
2 T chopped fresh Italian flat leaf parsley (optional)

In a large pot or dutch oven, saute the sausage over medium heat until brown, about 15 minutes.  Remove it from the pot and set aside.

Add half the oil to the pot.  Then add the okra and cook over medium heat until slightly soft, about 15 minutes.  

Add the remaining oil, onions, bell peppers, and garlic.  Stir, and cook another 10 minutes.

Add the chicken stock, tomatoes, cumin, cayenne, salt, black pepper and bay leaf.  Simmer uncovered for 30 minutes.

Add the shrimp and scallops to the gumbo and simmer another 5 minutes. Then add the lobster, crabmeat and parsley, adjust the seasonings and heat through, 2 to 3 minutes.  

Serve immediately over hot rice.  I serve warm corn bread on the side.

This is a wildly expensive but unbelievably tasty gumbo!



Monday, October 5, 2015

Inspirational Sunday - Sudden Loss of a Friend


Yesterday, my son lost one of his friends. B was just 32. He was just beginning his life with a new girlfriend who he introduced a mere 2 weeks ago at another friend's wedding. It was during that wedding that he tore his Achilles Tendon and underwent surgical repair. He has been at home recuperating. He called his parents and stated that he didn't feel good. His father was to his house within 30 minutes but B was already gone. Autopsy is still out. Cause undermined. But this does not help my son or his friends. B didn't drink or party. He was a responsible young man who found his niche in life as a concrete construction worker. He loved his job. He purchased a house a year ago and had just started dating a really nice girl that he was really crazy about.

My son is asking why this happened. As a mother you want to help your children but in this case, there are no answers. This is life. Sometimes it makes sense. And sometimes it just doesn't. All we can do is have faith in God that this is His plan. All anyone can do is just be there. My son and his friends are forced into something that shattered their sense of order and thrust them into a world forever changed. They feel vulnerable and might even feel anxiety. Their safe world no longer exists.

All of B's friends have gathered around his parents. They know this is especially hard on them because B lost his sister when she was 18 to a drunk driver. B was the only child left. Now his parents have no one. As a parent, we do not ever expect to bury our children. It is the wrong order of things. The boys though have gathered B's parents into their arms and are helping them make sense of it all. One of the boys is a lawyer and was able to obtain an independent autopsy. The boys have been over at his parent's house daily, taking shifts, and assisting his parents in making memory posters. Since sports was a large part of B's life, everyone is encouraged to wear a sports jersey to the wake. The entire group of his friends will be in some way involved as pallbearers or doing readings.

While this is a very sad day for our son and us, I am so proud of him and the group of boys my son calls his friends.

Recipe Thursday - Borscht


Borscht

Fill a soup pot with about 8 or 10 cups of water.  Add one piece of pork with a bone in it (any cut is okay, it is just for flavor), a celery stalk or two, a couple chunks of onion, a couple bay leaves, salt and pepper.  Boil for a while to create a base for the borscht.  Take all pieces out, reserving only the liquid.

At the same time, in a separate pan, boil about 6 beets (skins on, stalks cut off) until fork tender but not soft.  Remove from water and cool.

When cool, remove skin from beets.  Grate beets into hash-brown kind of pieces.  Return grated beets to reserved water from above.  Bring to boil on stove and simmer.  Season with salt, pepper and vinegar to taste. Serve over a mound of mashed potatoes in a bowl. Just before serving, add a dollop of sour cream and throw a sprig of dill frond on top.



NOTE** - This was the Christmas eve traditional meal for my husband's German maternal grandparents. I have no idea if above measurements are exact or not, I have just learned to make it from watching and it goes something like that above.   I do sometimes take some of the pork, which shreds easily because it is boiled very tender, and add it back to the soup for a little flavor, but if you want to go meatless, which I think is the traditional German/Polish way, you obviously wouldn’t do this!

Sunday, September 27, 2015

Inspirational Sunday - Blood Moon Tetrad vs Belief


As always I bet you are wondering why of all things I would post or talk about the Blood Moon Tetrad today of all days: Inspirational Sunday. There is a reason for my maddness.

If you believe the rumors, Blood Moon Prophecy is an apocalyptic belief promoted by 2 Christian ministers: John Hagee and Mark Blitz. If it is to be believed, the end of the world and the coming of the angels will happen today. According to these two people, today is the Beaming Aray of Glory. The sky will become as light as day and the moon will come the morning and evening star. The sun will then be the new gate which leads the believers of Christ to his kingdom.

I do not happen to believe in the above.

The Pope just left the United States. I watched him as much as I could.

I believe in God,

the Father almighty,
Creator of heaven and earth,
and in Jesus Christ, his only Son, our Lord,
who was conceived by the Holy Spirit,
born of the Virgin Mary,
suffered under Pontius Pilate,
was crucified, died and was buried;
he descended into hell;
on the third day he rose again from the dead;
he ascended into heaven,
and is seated at the right hand of God the Father almighty;
from there he will come to judge the living and the dead.
I believe in the Holy Spirit,
the holy catholic Church,
the communion of saints,
the forgiveness of sins,
the resurrection of the body,
and life everlasting. Amen. 
The above Apostle's Creed is what I believe in. Actually I am ready to return to my God whenever he wants me.





Thursday, September 24, 2015

Recipe Thursday - Butternut Squash Pumpkin Soup


I love love love butternut squash and found this gluten free soup recipe. Perfect fall soup!

Ingredients:
1 extra large butternut squash
1 15ounce can of Libby's Pumpkin
1 large Honeycrisp apple, peeled and cored and cubed or you can use 1 and 1/2 cups of apple juice
1/4 cup of diced yellow onion
2-3 tablespoons coconut oil
1/4 teaspoon curry powder
1 and 1/2 cups of vegetable broth
1 and 1/2 cup of unsweetened almond milk
1 and 1/2 teaspoon honey
salt and pepper to taste
few dashes to 1/2 teaspoon of cinnamon or nutmeg although I use the dashes and add more if needed
1 and 1/2 teaspoons kosher salt
1/4 teaspoon black pepper
roasted pumpkin seeds for garnish

Preheat the oven to 450 degrees. Peel the squash and remove the seeds then cut into chunks. Place the squash chunks in a baking dish or cookie sheet and drizzle with oil. Sprinkle generously with salt and pepper. Bake at 450 defrees for 25-30 minutes or until the squash is fork tender.

In a large stock pot, saute the diced apple and onion until soft then add the squash. Mash the squash with a potato masher right in that pot. Add the pumpkin, almond milk, and vegetable broth. Mix well.

Transfer this mixture to a food processor and blend until smooth and creamy then transfer back to the stock pot. Add the honey, curry, cinnamon, and salt and pepper. Heat to boiling then reduce to a low simmer for 15 to 30 minutes.

Serve in bowls and garnish with the roasted pumpkin seeds. I usually serve this with crusty gluten free bread.

Side note: If you use a really big butternut squash you might need to adjust the apple or juice, vegetable broth, and/or almond milk. Vice versa if the squash is on the smaller side the you decrease the amounts of liquids used.


Sunday, September 20, 2015

Inspirational Sunday - Dali Lama


I could add some words of wisdom here but I don't have any. I love the Dali Lama and I believe his words stand on their own. The following has been my mantra........
"One does not know how to live unless they know how to die."

Thursday, September 17, 2015

Recipe Thursday - Easy Spinach Tomato Mozzarella Chicken Rolls


There is a recipe going around social media about a 4 ingredient chicken bake. I make something similar to it but after reading the recipe, I definitely like mine better. Theirs uses pesto. I don't happen to like pesto that much so and I made my own recipe many many moons ago.

Ingredients:
1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil
2 garlic cloves, minced
6 cups baby spinach, rinsed, dried, chopped
4-6 Roma tomatoes, sliced
4 chicken breasts pounded very thin
4-6 ounces of mozzarella sliced
6 ounces ricotta cheese
about 1/2 cup chopped fresh basil leaves (do not use dried basil)
salt and pepper to taste

Directions:
Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Line a baking dish or baking sheet with foil and spray foil with nonstick spray.

Heat oil in a very large pan over medium heat and add garlic - saute for less than a minute then add the chopped spinach - again do not use frozen spinach only fresh spinach. Saute the spinach a little but don't let it completely wilt. Take the pan off the heat and let cool.

Brush and season lightly the pounded chicken breasts with the olive oil, salt and pepper. On one half of each breast, put 1/4 of the spinach mixture, a tablespoon of the ricotta, 2 slices of tomato, some chopped basil and a slice of mozzarella cheese. Roll each up beginning with the side that has all the ingredients. Skewer the end to hold it in place and place the roll then either in the baking pan or on the baking sheet you had already prepared.

Bake for 30 minutes covered. Then uncover and add another slice of mozzarella, 1-2 slices of tomato, and sprinkle the rest of the basil across each breast roll. Bake another 10-15 minutes or until the cheese has melted. Let stand 5 minutes then serve.

I usually serve this over fresh pasta or spaghetti squash. I have also served this with roasted broccoli or roasted brussel sprouts.







Wednesday, September 16, 2015

#NursesUnite vs The View


If you have not been following this and you are a nurse, you are missing out on a hilarious blunder The View made yesterday then tried to backpedal on the topic today after nurses took to Twitter and Social Media calling out The View for how they demeaned nurses.

The story is here: https://www.yahoo.com/tv/s/view-responds-nursesunite-backlash-love-nurses-deserve-raises-153656835.html

But basically The View wants us nurses "to chill".

Yeah....don't think so. Maybe this is why The View is on its way out?

One can only hope they don't need to check into a hospital anytime soon.

Monday, September 14, 2015

Inspirational Sunday - Grandparent's Day


I just cannot say enough about the deep down joy one experiences having a grandchild. My daughter called me early this morning - by early I am saying 7am! She knows I am not an early riser and especially on Sundays because that is my only day off and I tend to sleep in. She asked if she could bring my granddaughter over for a couple of hours this morning because she wanted to go to her gym to watch a contest and participate and my son-in-law wasn't home yet. Now I rarely get up early for anyone but my granddaughter? Of course!

Taking care of K during the morning is way different than the K we see in the afternoon and evening. The morning K is still a little groggy but goofy and silly. We painted nails with "polishpink toes fingers." Then she wanted to play ball box. Ball box was a way of entertaining her when my house is not very kid friendly. We tend to watch K at her house. Box balls are my interpretation of playing Bozo Buckets - instead of using buckets we use bankers boxes and we use golf balls as our balls. We use a few boxes so she has a huge area to 'toss the ball into the box'. I just love her interpretation of what we play. Her back pack is her ackpac!

Grandchildren are simply pure joy. She makes me remember why it is thrilling to be alive. She allows me to see things through her age level where everything is new and fun instead of through more jaded eyes like mine. Grandchildren are non judgemental - she doesn't care my house is still decorated in grays and pinks. She just wants to be loved and played with. She loves everything and her joy and giggles are contagious.

We live in the moment when we play where she is the person in charge. During the mornings she is slower paced. Afternoons and evenings she is a fireball of energy. It is nice to just enjoy her and not worry about making sure there is food in the pantry or how much laundry there needs to be done. It is pure quality time. Grandparents also get to come and go pretty much as we please although I would love to see her more but work just keeps getting in the way.

My granddaughter is one smart kid and she already knows how to work my cell better than I do. But as a grandparent we are in a unique position in that we can be role models for them and we just started learning prayers - gratitude prayers for right now but knowing she can put her hands together and pray with us. She just started including Papa and Gramma in her prayers with love yous and we are before monkey and horsey.

So Happy Grandparent's Day to all!

Saturday, September 12, 2015

Recipe Thursday - Chicken and Dumplings


I was in comfort food mode today and craved this so that is what we had for dinner. I served it with my Cheesy Gluten Free Biscuits (recipe here: http://myviewallmine.blogspot.com/2015/07/recipe-thursday-chopped-salad-with.html

This is super simple to make and usually I make it using frozen chicken I have in the deep freeze. I was running out of fresh chicken broth so decided to boil my chicken today.

Ingredients:
1 whole chicken - around 4-5 pounds
1 medium yellow onion, diced
5 bay leaves
5 tablespoons salted butter
1 and 1/2 tablespoons table salt, adding more to taste
1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper, adding more to taste

Directions:
Put the chicken into a large soup pot. Cover it with about 1/2 inch of water then add the onion, bay leaves, and butter. Cover. I usually set it to high heat bringing it to a boil. I then reduce heat to low, partially cover until it is very gently simmering for 2-3 hours.

You can tell the chicken is done when the meat is falling off the bones. I transfer the chicken to a cutting board and leave the broth and bay leaves in the pot. I pour off half the broth into canning jars then replace the broth with water. When the chicken has cooled a bit, I use a fork and start shredding the chicken, throwing out the bones, skin, and other waste. I save the chicken giblets if they came with for Thanksgiving or when I make giblet dressing for stuffed chickens. I place the shredded chicken in a bowl and cover to keep it warm.

Now I begin the dumplings.

Ingredients:
3 cups all purpose flour (I have been trying to make this gluten free but haven't succeeded yet in finding the proper balance of gluten free flours)
1 and 1/2 teaspoons baking powder
1 teaspoon table salt
1/2 cup vegetable oil
3/4 cup plus 2 tablespoons water
2 large eggs, beaten
Garnish: minced fresh parsley

Directions:
Put the flour, baking powder, and salt in a large bowl and whisk to blend. Add the oil and stir to coat the flour then add the water and beaten eggs. Stir just enough to combine, then knead with clean hands until evenly mixed.

Turn the dough out onto a generously floured board (I use my granite counter top) and divide the dough in half. Take the first portion and roll out into a thin rectangle. Slice the dough lengthwise into 1/2 inch wide strips, then cut each strip cross-wise into pieces 4 inches long. Repeat with remaining dough.

Finishing Directions:
Bring the broth back to a boil. Drop the dumpling strips into the boiling liquid. Reduce heat to a simmer and cook uncovered, stirring occasionally to prevent sticking, until the dumplings are tender (the dumplings will puff up a wee bit and look whitish). Return the shredded chicken to the pot in the last 5-15 minutes of cooking. Taste and add additional salt and pepper as needed. I will also add more flour to thicken the broth up a little to make it less runny.

I usually already have made the cheesy gluten free rolls and just zap them in the microwave for a minute or two to heat them but if you don't have a supply in the freezer like I ran into today, I made them while the chicken is boiling.

Side note: sometimes I add carrots and celery when I boil the chicken. I have also been known to add a gluten free jar of chicken broth if needed to bump up the taste of the broth. I have never ever added chicken bouillon granules or cubes because they are full of chemicals I just do not want in my food. I have tried using my gluten free pasta and while it does work, it is egg based and I just don't like my dumplings to be egg tasting dumplings since that recipe triples the amount of eggs used.

Sorry this was posted late. I didn't realize I hadn't posted it until today.

Tuesday, September 8, 2015

Wedding Gifts - Required?


This past year two of my nieces and one nephew got married. One was in Boston in January and the other about 3 hours south of us. Nephew's wedding actually happened 2 years ago but we were not informed of said wedding until a notice was sent that a card wedding reception was planned for their 2nd anniversary. The one the end of May required a 3 hour drive and a hotel room.

So let's start with the 1st one of the year: niece's wedding and a cake reception in Boston, You might ask why because my niece is from IL but it was in Boston because the groom was from there and he is a very opinionated alpha male who demanded everything be around his family. The Boston one would have required not only a flight but a hotel room and a car in January or the depths of winter. There was absolutely no way I was going to attend and try to get there between weather systems and try to be back home for patients. Besides I could not afford it. For their present, I hand crocheted a 'snuggle blanket' then cross stitched a heart in the corner with their names and the date and shipped it to them. I used white yarn since it was a wedding snuggle blanket. A snuggle blanket is used to snuggle together on the couch while watching TV or while reading. I revised the pattern to accommodate the husband's 6'2" height and the girth of both together. I spent over $100.00 on yarn and it took me 4 months to crochet. It is in the picture above (it is folded into quarters). I got no thank you. I do know they received it because I saw it in pictures of their new apartment.

The second wedding: this one was for one of my nephews. He actually got married 2 years ago and while the kids' social media sites stated they were married, my sister emphatically denied they were and basically told members of the family to butt out of their business. So we all did. Out of the blue, we received an email from my sister who stated that she was planning a 'card wedding reception' for their 2nd anniversary. Actual presents were discouraged and gift cards or cash would be appreciated. I sent a card with a gift certificate to a store I know they had in the town they lived. I got no thank you. My sister even had the gall to chastise my for not sending them anything. Nephew and wife are now getting divorced. I think the soon to be ex-wife took the gift card and didn't tell anyone.

The third wedding: this again was for another niece. This niece is over 30 years old and works as a NICU nurse. She has a child from a previous encounter (never married). She planned a wedding and reception 3 hours south of us. We would have to get a hotel room. BUT only certain people were invited to the wedding. Out of 6 of her aunts and one uncle, all but 2 aunts were invited. Interesting that although I helped raise this niece while my sister went through not one but two divorces, I was not invited. I was specifically told not to crochet her a blanket because she didn't want one. Instead she expected money. Yes I was told that. I was unable to attend her shower - we had a previous engagement to attend - actually my sister emailed all of us asking what weekend worked for us. Although there were quite a few weekends that coordinated with all of us, a weekend I specifically stated I could not attend was of course the date that was picked. No, I did not send a gift. I didn't for the other 2 and I wasn't about to for this one. So family pictures were taken after the service and of course my one sister and I were not in the pictures because we were not invited. So we get to the reception - in a bar - no food served - and my daughter learns that the babysitter that was supposed to be hired to watch my granddaughter was not ever done. The music was deafening. I don't drink. Grandchild was hungry and tired and so was I. Niece wouldn't even acknowledge me so I left with grandchild. We ate and I put her to bed. My present? A $100 check that was cashed. No thank you again.

So 3 times this year I have given wedding presents to relatives and 3 times not even a thank you sent. My son's best friend who is like a son to me and got married this summer too? He and his wife got a shower gift and a hefty wedding gift and I received a thank you from them for both plus an invitation to dinner.

Selfish nieces and nephew - I wish I had never given them anything. I took money from paying bills just to give them what I did.

And people wonder why I have a problem with blood relatives!