I haven't posted in over a year. It has been a very busy year. A couple of months ago our oldest child and her husband decided to move their family to over 1000 miles away. At that time, granddaughter and I began making plans to build her a fairy garden she and I had seen on one of our adventures. Husband and I are not rich in any way, shape, or form and fairy gardens are not cheap. So granddaughter and I started picking out what kind of fairy garden she wanted and the things she wanted in it. Slowly but surely, I was able to obtain and take delivery on it all.
The past 2 weeks daughter, son-in-law, and granddaughter have been living at son-in-law's mother's house but they allowed our grand-dog to spend the entire time with us with only 1 visit scheduled with granddaughter. Grand-dog has spent time with us before when they went on vacations and he does love spending time with us. He has spent most of his life with us on and off so he is very used to our lifestyle and snuggling and playing with us.
A week ago I get an evite to a going away party being held in honor of my daughter, son-in-law, and granddaughter being given at son-in-law's mother's home where they have been living. Since we had 2 family reunions that same weekend and she is known to schedule things without permission of the kids, I called her to see if the kids knew about this. She said yes and were helping plan it but it was only going to be immediate families only. Yeah nope - didn't happen. Should have put money on that one - very easy bet. She is known to go way overboard and yesterday's party was a perfect example. It went from immediate family only to about 50 people (all friends or relatives of theirs). I almost didn't go but it would be the last time I got to see my grandchild. So I went.
So back to the fairy garden - everything has been in for over 2 weeks and I have been trying to get daughter to commit to a date I could have granddaughter for a few hours to put it all together. All I was asking for was a mere 3-4 hours. Yesterday when arranging time today with son-in-law's mother, son-in-law said not one thing more is going in his car and definitely not a fairy garden.
So here I sit with all the fixings for the fairy garden. I have no idea what to say to granddaughter on why she can't take it with her - I can't very well tell her that her father is a douche. So I said well, I can do it when I watch her when you come back for daughter's best friend's wedding. Ummm well I learned plans changed and they never told me. I am no longer watching granddaughter for the wedding since they decided to not bring her. Instead they are flying the other grandmother out to their new house to watch granddaughter and grand-dog. Glad I asked. Glad to know that I no longer had to save my own anniversary weekend for something I was not going to be able to do and this was decided 2 weeks ago and no one bothered telling me.
Truthfully I wanted to just ship it all out to granddaughter and let her put it all together but I can't - this was something we were going to share together. I want us to do it together. I have tickets scheduled for a visit in October. I guess I can lug everything out there and do it then. But again. What do I tell granddaughter who knows we were supposed to do it today? Oops - you can put it together but then not touch it again for over 3 months? Who would do that to a child? I can't.
Hopefully I get to see them before they leave. Knowing son-in-law, he will come get grand-dog at 6:00am and leave without us even knowing. The only time I have ever been away from my daughter is when she went to college or got married and moved in with her husband but they were only 30 minutes away. Did we ever encroach on their time or show up uninvited? Nope. Had that done to me by my inlaws so would never ever do it to my own kids.
Meanwhile, I pray granddaughter never finds out the type of person her father really is and that my daughter wakes up and realizes him for what he is doing to her and their daughter. He is moving them to an area where only his friends are and none of daughter's. I can only hope and pray they survive.
