How honest are you if no one is watching? Do you still drive the speed limit? Do you obey the laws? Are you honest with yourself? Are you honest with others?
Everyone has heard the old "Honesty is the best policy". We were preached that from the time we were young. We even told our kids that if they were honest with us, the punishment would not be as bad. In reality honesty creates trust in the minds of ourselves and others.
But can one ever be truly honest with everyone including their own spouse? I believe one can. Honesty is one of the most basic needs and what I call the bedrock in marriage. It is essential for trust, for building compatibility, for creating a way of life that you both enjoy, and for maintaining the feelings of love in marriage.
Why do I bring it up? Because I felt like it. My problem is learning when to be totally honest with someone and when to just shut up.
If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything. ~Mark Twain
A lie may take care of the present, but it has no future. ~Author Unknown
We tell lies when we are afraid... afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger. ~Tad Williams
A cat has absolute emotional honesty: human beings, for one reason or another, may hide their feelings, but a cat does not. ~Ernest Hemingway
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