People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Sometimes one needs to figure out which one the other is but when you do, you will know what to do with each one.
When someone is in your life for a Reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Some times they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Now it is time to move on.
People come into your life for a Season. . . because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real....BUT, only for a season.
Lifetime friendships teach you lifetime lessons, things must build upon order to have solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use on all other relationships and areas of your life.
Personally I have only a few lifetime friends. My husband is at the top of my list. Another came into my life as the wife of my husband's now deceased friend, another who has been there even if we do not talk on a daily basis, and still another who came into my life as a result of common interests along with children the same age. 3 others have come into my life within the past 3 years from the internet, one of which is so like me it is scary. Any of these people I can call, cry, talk, spew, yell, or just plain sit with quietly. They are there for me as much as I am there for them.
The trick is determining which one a friendship fits in which is the problem I am currently struggling with. There are people you just click with and others you start to wonder about when you have honestly portrayed yourself as the person you are but they do not reciprocate the same feeling. You feel tolerated but not accepted. Does one accept this, hoping that someday this will change? Or does one take this lesson and move on? So the current question I ponder: at what point does one move on when you feel tolerated but not accepted?
